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What every 4 year old should know

It’s back to school time and children all over are starting preschool.  Many parents are frantically searching the internet to find out if their little ones are “on track” and know everything they should.

So in honor of the new school year, I’m posting it here…

What should a 4 year old know?

I was on a parenting bulletin board recently and read a post by a mother who was worried that her 4 1/2 year old did not know enough. “What should a 4 year old know?” she asked.

Most of the answers left me not only saddened but pretty soundly annoyed. One mom posted a laundry list of all of the things her son knew. Counting to 100, planets, how to write his first and last name, and on and on. Others chimed in with how much more their children already knew, some who were only 3. A few posted URL’s to lists of what each age should know. The fewest yet said that each child develops at his own pace and not to worry.

It bothered me greatly to see these mothers responding to a worried mom by adding to her concern, with lists of all the things their children could do that hers couldn’t. We are such a competitive culture that even our preschoolers have become trophies and bragging rights. Childhood shouldn’t be a race.

So here, I offer my list of what a 4 year old should know.

She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally, all of the time.

He should know that he is safe and he should know how to keep himself safe in public, with others, and in varied situations. He should know that he can trust his instincts about people and that he never has to do something that doesn’t feel right, no matter who is asking. He should know his personal rights and that his family will back them up.
She should know how to laugh, act silly, be goofy and use her imagination. She should know that it is always okay to paint the sky orange and give cats 6 legs.
He should know his own interests and be encouraged to follow them. If he could care less about learning his numbers, his parents should realize he’ll learn them accidentally soon enough and let him immerse himself instead in rocket ships, drawing, dinosaurs or playing in the mud.
She should know that the world is magical and that so is she. She should know that she’s wonderful, brilliant, creative, compassionate and marvelous. She should know that it’s just as worthy to spend the day outside making daisy chains, mud pies and fairy houses as it is to practice phonics. Scratch that– way more worthy.
But more important, here’s what parents need to know.

That every child learns to walk, talk, read and do algebra at his own pace and that it will have no bearing on how well he walks, talks, reads or does algebra.

That the single biggest predictor of high academic achievement and high ACT scores is reading to children. Not flash cards, not workbooks, not fancy preschools, not blinking toys or computers, but mom or dad taking the time every day or night (or both!) to sit and read them wonderful books.
That being the smartest or most accomplished kid in class has never had any bearing on being the happiest. We are so caught up in trying to give our children “advantages” that we’re giving them lives as multi-tasked and stressful as ours. One of the biggest advantages we can give our children is a simple, carefree childhood.
That our children deserve to be surrounded by books, nature, art supplies and the freedom to explore them. Most of us could get rid of 90% of our children’s toys and they wouldn’t be missed, but some things are important– building toys like legos and blocks, creative toys like all types of art materials (good stuff), musical instruments (real ones and multicultural ones), dress up clothes and books, books, books. (Incidentally, much of this can be picked up quite cheaply at thrift shops.) They need to have the freedom to explore with these things too– to play with scoops of dried beans in the high chair (supervised, of course), to knead bread and make messes, to use paint and play dough and glitter at the kitchen table while we make supper even though it gets everywhere, to have a spot in the yard where it’s absolutely fine to dig up all the grass and make a mud pit.
That our children need more of us. We have become so good at saying that we need to take care of ourselves that some of us have used it as an excuse to have the rest of the world take care of our kids. Yes, we all need undisturbed baths, time with friends, sanity breaks and an occasional life outside of parenthood. But we live in a time when parenting magazines recommend trying to commit to 10 minutes a day with each child and scheduling one Saturday a month as family day. That’s not okay! Our children don’t need Nintendos, computers, after school activities, ballet lessons, play groups and soccer practice nearly as much as they need US. They need fathers who sit and listen to their days, mothers who join in and make crafts with them, parents who take the time to read them stories and act like idiots with them. They need us to take walks with them and not mind the .1 MPH pace of a toddler on a spring night. They deserve to help us make supper even though it takes twice as long and makes it twice as much work. They deserve to know that they’re a priority for us and that we truly love to be with them.
And now back to those 4 year old skills lists…..

I know it’s human nature to want to know how our children compare to others and to want to make sure we’re doing all we can for them. Here is a list of what children are typically taught or should know by the end of each year of school, starting with preschool.

Since we homeschool, I occasionally print out the lists and check to see if there’s anything glaringly absent in what my kids know. So far there hasn’t been, but I get ideas sometimes for subjects to think up games about or books to check out from the library. Whether you homeschool or not, the lists can be useful to see what kids typically learn each year and can be reassuring that they really are doing fine.

If there are areas where it seems your child is lacking, realize that it’s not an indication of failure for either you or your child. You just haven’t happened to cover that. Kids will learn whatever they’re exposed to, and the idea that they all need to know these 15 things at this precise age is rather silly. Still, if you want him to have those subjects covered then just work it into life and play with the subject and he’ll naturally pick it up. Count to 60 when you’re mixing a cake and he’ll pick up his numbers. Get fun books from the library about space or the alphabet. Experiment with everything from backyard snow to celery stalks in food coloring. It’ll all happen naturally, with much more fun and much less pressure.

My favorite advice about preschoolers is on this site though.

What does a 4 year old need?

Much less than we realize, and much more.

8 Tips to Teach Sharing


8 Tips to Teach Sharing

Found this interesting stuff so thought of sharing with other Moms.

1-Tackle the Word “Mine!”

Next to “no,” is there any other word more popular with 2- and 3-year-olds? Not only do they call their own stuff “mine,” they see everything else as theirs too! “Gracie can be sitting in a sea of toys, but if I pick up one and give it to Jack, she wants it,” Mary Ann sighs. “Why is it so hard for her to share?”

But that doesn’t mean you can’t help your child learn about sharing. In fact, it’s up to you to help transform sharing from a meaningless concept into an everyday ethic. Just don’t expect overnight results. Generosity and empathy — the foundation of sharing — are qualities that emerge over time, after repeated reinforcement, Dr. Tobin says. Here’s how to speed the process along


2-Homespun Values

Kids learn best by example, so make sharing a regular part of family life. Tell your child that in your house, everyone shares the chores, then assign her a few tasks. Even a 2-year-old can place napkins on the table or pitch a can into the recycling bin. During meals, “share the limelight,” letting each person speak uninterrupted. At snacktime, offer a bite from your plate, explaining, “Mommy is sharing her apple with Claire.” The next time, ask, “Will Claire share her apple with Mommy?” Praise her if she does. It’s also important to show your child that you care about others, says Bobbi Conner, author of Everyday Opportunities for Extraordinary Parenting. Let her help you make soup for a sick friend, for example — she’ll learn that when someone has a problem, there are things she can do to help.


3-Do Prep Work Before Playdates

If you’ll be the host, help your child stash her favorite toy — the one she genuinely couldn’t bear to let another kid touch — in a safe place. Then explain that the rest of her playthings are for everyone to enjoy. When you go to someone else’s house, chat beforehand about what to expect, recalling highlights from her last successful playdate (“Remember when you and Peter had fun playing ball together?”).


4-Compliment Kind Behavior

As important as it is for you to step in and correct bad behavior, it’s equally important that you praise the good. Make sure your little one knows she’s sharing nicely and that you’re proud. Say, for example, “You’re doing a nice job of playing with Philip and the blocks.” That reinforcement will help her remember the acts that got her kudos and she’ll be more likely to repeat in future playdates.


5- Don’t Rush to Referee

If your little one takes a toy from his friend, try not to overreact — see how the children handle it. They’ll sometimes continue playing without a fuss. Part of learning to interact with others is figuring out how to manage difficult situations. Give your child a chance to improve his own problem-solving skills.


6-Break Up Any Brawls

If your child’s grabbiness makes her friend cry, take action. Say, “That’s not nice. Kate is playing with that,” then help her find another activity.


7-Take a Strong Stand On Hitting and Biting

Inappropriate physical contact definitely requires an immediate response. If your little one is the offender, remove him from the action and say, “We don’t hit. That hurts!” But don’t force him to say he’s sorry. When all eyes are on him, your child may be too embarrassed to comply. Instead, walk him over to his friend and apologize on his behalf.


8-Tailor Your Technique

Experiment with various strategies to see what works best for your child. If Gillian Norrie’s 2-year-old triplets, Noah, Frasier, and Gabriel, fight over a plaything, “I give the toy a time-out for a few minutes,” the suburban Atlanta mother says.

Even if your child is a toy miser on playdates, she may be better under different circumstances. The Norrie boys’ teacher has praised their willingness to share. “I couldn’t believe it,” Norrie says, laughing. “I guess my husband and I taught them more than I thought.




Kids Acitivities

Found this interesting article some where,thought of sharing it with other moms.

Activities That Boost Physical Development

  • Take family walks. Alternate walking, running, jogging, and marching. Play “I Spy” or start a collection of feathers or leaves as a diversion while you walk. Indoors, lead a parade with musical instruments or flags.
  • Encourage sandbox time. Fill the box with sand toys that encourage manipulation.
  • Water play in the backyard. A paddle pool, sprinkler, or running hose all encourage splashing, running, and touching. (Always supervise your child around water.)
  • Make an obstacle course in your living room or backyard, consisting of cushions, cardboard boxes, toys, or other found objects that your child can run around and climb over.
  • Play pretend games. Animals are a young child’s favorite: “Can you walk like a chicken? Gallop like a horse? What does a puppy do?” Or encourage your child to “fly” through the yard like an airplane or row a boat across the room.
  • Introduce different kinds of tag at playdates: Play freeze tag, for example.
  • Play ball. Games that involve kicking, throwing, and catching are great practice. Try not to get overly elaborate about rules in the preschool years.
  • Dance to the music. Expose your child to different styles of music. Playing musical instruments boosts physical development, too. Or share tunes with physical movements, like “I’m a Little Teapot.” Many familiar songs emphasize fine-motor skills through finger play, such as “Patty Cake” and “Itsy Bitsy Spider.”
  • Place a string on the ground and pretend it’s a tightrope or a pirate ship’s plank to develop balance.
  • Wash the car, bikes, dog — anything involving suds and water is energizing fun. Blow bubbles and let your child try to catch them.
  • Introduce games from your childhood. Everything’s new to your child: “Ring around the rosy,” “Red light, green light,” “What time is it, Mr. Fox?”
  • Put on a puppet show. Make sock or finger puppets or use toys, crouching behind a table with your child.
  • Build fine motor skills in ways that go beyond the art table. Help your child draw a village with sidewalk chalk. Use sticks to trace letters in the dirt outside, or indoors in flour or cornmeal

Montessori Education: A Few Good Resources



In case you were wondering what Montessori education is, here’s what good folks at Waterfront Montessori have sent us – this is an excellent repository of the best of resources on internet to understand the philosophy and whether it suits your child.




Karen Westman (Head of School)

Waterfront Montessori




Montessori Madness, the 123Draw version with Trevor Eissler

Trevor Eissler is the original Montessori Dad.  He loved what it did for his children so much that he wrote a book about it (Montessori Madness, a must-read for any prospective Montessori parent) and is working on developing the movement to bring Montessori mainstream. He has more recently been joined in this quest by Dr. Steven Hughes (see below) and Daniel Petter-Lipstein (see below also) This video is a speed-drawing overview of Montessori: The drawings alone are worth the watch.


Is Montessori The Origin of Google & Amazon? by Steve Denning.  From
Somebody finally said it:  There’s an incredibly successful model for education that has been around for a hundred years and is already globally implemented to boot.


Superwoman Was Already Here by Daniel Petter-Lipstein via

A Montessori Dad says it briefly and eloquently and was quoted heavily on


Montessori Mafia by Peter Sims.  From the Wall Street Journal.

A feel-good article: Montessori goes mainstream.  Two business school professors, as a result of a study of 3,000 entrepreneurs, discover that a disproportionate number, especially of the most successful of them, went to Montessori schools, and say so, publicly.


Montessori Builds Innovators by Andrew McAfee from the Harvard Business Review blog

Why Montessori is the perfect incubator for innovators in training, from the principal research scientist at the Center for Digital Business in the MIT Sloan School of Management — and a Montessori child himself.


For fun:  The first five minutes of the TED talk by Sims videogame inventor Will Wright.

Once a Montessori child, always a Montessori child.

Dr. Steven Hughes: Good at Doing Things: Montessori Education and Higher Order Cognitive Functions
(Careful:  This one is about 1.5 hours long; tough to handle at one sitting).
Dr. Steven Hughes is a pediatric neurologist on staff and the University of Minnesota Medical School.  This is an amazing talk from a neurological perspective — a dazzling tribute to Montessori’s genius.

Carrot Cake

Carrot Cake

Carrot cake is a perennial favorite, but it is often loaded with vegetable oil and laden with a cream cheese frosting. Our version is healthier, using a small amount of olive oil, a full cup of honey for moistness and flavor, and a combination of whole wheat pastry and unbleached flours. The crunchy walnuts even add a bit of omega-3 fats to this sweet treat. With a cup of hot green tea, this cake will make you forget about cream cheese frosting. Enjoy!

Food as Medicine

Carrots are excellent sources of vitamin A, and good sources vitamins C and K, fiber and potassium.

2 cups firmly packed finely grated carrots
Juice of 1 large orange
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
1/4 cup light olive oil
1 cup honey, liquefied in microwave (30 seconds)
1/2 cup crushed or chopped pineapple, drained
1 cup unbleached white flour
1 1/2 cups whole-wheat pastry flour
2 teaspoons baking soda
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon ground allspice
3/4 cup walnuts, chopped

1. Preheat oven to 350°F.

2. In a mixing bowl, stir together the carrots, orange juice, vanilla, olive oil, honey, and pineapple until well blended.

3. In another bowl, stir together the flours, baking soda, and spices. Mix in the walnuts.

4. Blend the dry ingredients into the carrot mixture, stirring until just mixed.

5. Pour the batter into a nonstick 8-inch-square baking pan and bake for 45-60 minutes until a knife inserted in the center comes out clean. Remove from oven, let cool slightly, and remove from pan.

Strawberry Jam Recipe: A Healthy Treat!

My little boy and I recently went berry-picking, and as if that wasn’t fun enough, we made the best jam ever (made with love, of course)…


So here I offer to you our recipe, and for the best experience, I would highly suggest you enjoy berry picking with your little one, too!


Once the jam reaches it’s target temperature, add one of the following flavor variations if you like: two tablespoons Campari, a handful of fresh mint or basil or one scraped vanilla bean.


  • 35 oz. Strawberries, hulled and cubed
  • 35 oz. sugar, granulated
  • lemon, sliced
  • 1 pkg. pectin, such as CERTO or Sure-Jell
  • 1 Tbsp. butter


  1. Combine strawberries and sugar in a large, nonreactive pot (enamel or stainless steel is best). Let stand at least 20 minutes or up to two hours.

    Stir strawberries and sugar until mixed well, and place over medium-high heat. Add lemon slices, pectin and butter (butter is added to reduce foaming). Stir frequently, taking care not to burn the sugar.

    Bring to a boil and maintain a rolling boil. Skim away any foam that forms; if there is too much foam, add a little more butter. Once a boil has been reached, take the temperature with a quick-read thermometer. Continue boiling and stirring until the mixture consistently reads 220°F. Turn off heat. Remove lemon slices. Process immediately for canning (See On Canning, below). Otherwise, allow to cool, then pack in jars and refrigerate, or freezer-safe containers or bags if freezing.



Makes: makes 4 half-pint jars

70 Calories per serving ONLY!



Healthy Snacks For Kids


Got this information so thought of sharing with all the moms because we all face same problems while feeding our little ones.

Some of them I have tried on my son & he liked them.

You may want to give it a try.


Organic Dude Ranch Multigrain Snack Chips

120 cal, 5g fat for 13
Made in a nut-free facility with whole grains like quinoa and amaranth, these chips pack omega-3 fatty acids and fiber. 

Goldfish Colors Neon

70 cal, 3g fat for 28
These cheesy crackers reel in vibrant hues from juices rather than artificial dyes. Raves a 5-year-old Goldfish fan: “They taste just like the kind we have at home, but some of them are purple — my favorite color.” 

Cascadian Farm Organic Oatmeal Raisin Kid-Sized Bars

70 cal, 2g fat each
These small, fiber-rich granola bars are the ideal no-mess, stash-in-your purse snack for toddlers and preschoolers. “They’re soft like a cookie,” says one 4-year-old taster. (

Bachman Gluten-Free Puzzle Pretzel

120 cal, 3g fat for 16
Made with potato and rice flours, these pretzels are a thoughtful school snack — even kids without food allergies thought they were yummy. Five percent of the profits go to Autism Speaks. 

Tate’s Bake Shop Whole Wheat Dark Chocolate Cookies

80 cal, 4g fat each
Every kid and parent raved about Tate’s treats, made with healthy whole-grain flour and dark-chocolate chips. At 2 inches, the cookie’s size is just right.

Thomas’ 100% Whole Wheat Bagel Thins

110 cal, 1g fat each
About half as thick as a typical supermarket bagel, they’re the perfect portion for kids and conveniently presliced. Their 5 grams of fiber will help fill kids up. Smear ’em with PB. (thomas englishmuffins

Dole Ready-Cut Fruit Strawberries, Peaches & Bananas

70 cal, 0g fat per ½ cup
Stash this flavorful medley in your freezer for when you unexpectedly run out of fresh fruit. Our tasters loved it whipped into a frothy smoothie or stirred into low-fat yogurt

Funky Monkey Applemon

40 cal, 0g fat per pack
Although these mini bags of freeze-dried fruit pieces aren’t sweetened, kids treated them like candy. Reports one mom: “My picky 3-year-old polished off the entire bag in less than five minutes

Del Monte Pineapple Wedges

50 cal, 0g fat each
Kids ate this vitamin C-rich pineapple just like a push-pop — and there was no mess because the wrapper catches the juice. Ideal for soccer practice and other times your child can’t (or won’t!) sit down for a snack. 

Tang’s Natural Vegetable Whole Wheat Dumpling

110 cal, 3g fat for 3
Kids didn’t even notice that these were made from whole-wheat dough or stuffed with cabbage, scallions, and carrots. They were so popular that we had to quickly microwave a second batch. (twinmarquis

GoGo Squeez Applesauce

50 cal, 0g fat each
Open, squeeze, and slurp — that’s how kids polished off these portable applesauce tubes. Of the five flavors, they preferred the two that aren’t sweetened with juice or sugar — Apple Apple and Apple Cinnamon

Alexia Waffle Cut Sweet Potato Fries with Seasoned Salt

115 cal, 7g fat per ½ cup
French fries as a snack? You betcha if they’re made from vitamin A-rich spuds. Kids raved about the checkerboard shape, while moms liked the slightly spicy kick. 

Terra Thai Basil Curry Exotic Vegetable Chips

90 cal, 8g fat for 15
Flavorful but not overpowering, these curry-seasoned sweet potatoes, Japanese squash, and taro chips count as a serving of veggies.

YoGreek Yogurt + Crunch

140 cal, 1g fat each
For a snack with substance, try this yogurt-and-granola combo. It’s got 11 grams of protein (about twice as much as regular yogurt) and whole grains that will help fill you up. 

Seaport Edamame Soybeans in Pods

90 cal, 3g fat each
Microwave these single-serve packets for three minutes, and you have a hot snack loaded with protein, iron, and zinc. (

Wholly Guacamole 100-Calorie Snack Packs

100 cal, 8g fat each
This creamy, delicious guac comes in a single-serve squeeze packet for freshness and portion control. Go for the original or spicy flavor.

Whole Grain Crispbread

65 cal, 0g fat for 8
This low-calorie, diet-friendly choice with a slightly cheesy flavor .

Frigo Cheese Heads Fit & Fun Lovers Natural Cheese

60-70 cal, 3-5g fat each
Let your child choose which high-calcium, reduced-fat string cheese she wants from this pack: the white mozzarella or the speckled Colby Jack.

Jamba Yogurt & Sorbet bars

80-90 cal, 1-2g fat each
Sold in supermarkets by smoothie chain Jamba Juice, the pops have probiotics to help aid digestion. Says one mom: “I tried to get a lick, and my 2-year-old shouted, ‘Don’t eat my ice cream!

Yoplait Splitz Rainbow Sherbet

90 cal, 1g fat each
You can stick this tri-layered yogurt in the fridge or freezer; our tasters were split on which way they preferred. It’s naturally colored and gives 4- to 8-year-olds one fifth of the vitamin D and calcium they need daily.

Kozy Shack Cowrageous! Pudding

100 cal, 1g fat each
Thanks to low-fat milk and a smidge of sugar, this kid version is 40 calories lighter than some packaged puddings. All three flavors (chocolate, vanilla, and strawberry) are fortified with vitamins A and D and pack 3 grams of fiber.

Jif Natural Peanut Butter Spread

80 cal, 8g fat for 1 Tbs.
If your kid thinks it’s gross when natural PB separates, try this trans-fat-free spread. It contains a small amount of palm oil, so you never need to stir. Both the creamy and crunchy versions (5 calories extra) were hits.

Earth’s Best Kidz Baked Popcorn Chicken

120 cal, 3g fat for 8
The coating is whole grain, the chicken breast is antibiotic-free, and “they’re fun to pop in your mouth,” according to one 8-year-old snacker. Tasty from the oven or the microwave. 

Bear Naked Peak Energy Trail Mix, Cranberry Almond

70 cal, 4g fat for 4 Tbs.
Besides the berries, it’s packed with raisins, walnuts, oats, almonds, and seeds. One-quarter cup provides 4- to 8-year-olds with 20 percent of the iron they need for the day.

Tribe Origins Hummus, Tomato & Veggie

70 cal, 6g fat for 2 Tbs.
We accidentally had this flavor — packed with dried bell peppers and carrots — sent to our preschool tasters rather than the plain version. But much to our surprise, they loved dipping pretzels in it.