Hello! Does anyone have a nanny they love and interest in sharing her services starting May 1, part-time to full-time? Our daughter is 17 months and on the waitlist for daycare, so we are looking for a solution in the interim (but if it works out well, could be more permanent). We live on JFK close to Saint Peter’s, and would be happy to drop off our girl at your place with her own food and diapers (could also provide her pack n’ play for napping), so your little one’s routine would be minimally affected. And hopefully he or she will make a new friend along the way, while you also get the benefit of saving a bit on childcare. We can give you references and answer any other questions, as well. Would also appreciate references for you and your nanny. If this sounds like something that might work for you, please shoot me an email: [email protected] Or if you have any recs for other childcare solutions, let me know. Thank you!
Christine Goodman Art House Owner Jersey City
I’ve known Christine Goodman since before either of us had kids. It’s been amazing to grow into motherhood with her. Her words are always inspiring.
JCFamilies: Tell us who you are, professionally.
Christine Goodman: I am the founder and executive director of the visual and performing arts center Art House Productions. Now in its 16th year, we present plays, art exhibitions, and a quarterly citywide arts festival – JC Fridays.
JCF: How did JC Fridays start?
CG: JC Fridays came about after the closing of 111 First Street, an artist enclave in Jersey City. When that building closed, a lot of our arts community felt really beaten down. Art House had a meeting with arts organizers, arts friendly businesses, and other community leaders, to see how we could move the arts forward in Jersey City.
The idea of JC Fridays came out of that meeting. Even to this day, it continues the spirit of the community coming together to support one another around the arts. There was a real need for that. I think that’s why it’s such a successful program.
JCF: How important are the arts to a community?
CG: The arts are an extremely valuable component of any healthy city, particularly in times where people feel like they don’t have a voice. The arts gives people a platform, a meeting place, a community. A vibrant arts scene makes people feel invested in the city and in the communities in which they live.
JCF: What’s a typical workday like for you?
CG: It starts at 6 am – but through no decision of my own.
JCF: Because of the kids?
CG: Yes. Should we talk about a work day, or about my family?
CG: So I have my predawn experience with my one year old. That’s how we roll into the rest of the morning. I have two kids. The day starts with them waking up pretty early. My husband and I get them to school, and then I’m at Art House. It’s a 24/7 job. As a founder, an organization like this is a third child. This is my teenager.
JCF: Why did you call it a teenager – what makes it a teenager?
CG: First because it’s 16 years old. But also because it has really has matured. It can stand on its own. It has its own identity. It’s wonderful to see that through all the growing pains, we have created an institution that means a lot to many people.
JCF: How do you balance your business and your family?
CG: That’s the million-dollar question. It’s evolving. It’s a balancing act. As professional mothers, we continually walk the line of making sure that we’re there for our kids, that they have what they need, and also that we’re taking care of what the businesses needs, which can mean that you are on call at the strangest hours.
There’s no easy answer or a magic pill for running a business and being a mother of two. We have these standards of excellence as professionals and mothers that we can handle everything. The short answer is that it’s really tough. I think the short answer is in continually making sure that your children know that you’re there for them and empowering other people around your business as well.
JCF: How do you do that?
CG: For me, it means making sure that my kids feel comfortable at my business. I don’t run a 9-5. They’re comfortable at Art House. They’re comfortable in the theatre. They have space here that’s their own. They’re welcomed when they walk in the door. At the times when there needs to be a lot of juggling, they can be in the space of my business and feel like they belong.
The other thing is being realistic about my timelines, about what is humanly possible for me to accomplish. I think that the Christine before kids would work all night if she needed to. Christine after kids needs to make sure that the timelines and support systems are in place. Which has been a wonderful change for me.
JCF: Do you ever work at night?
CG: Taking a meeting at 7 pm is tough. It means that there are other people who have to sacrifice in order for that to happen. Even for me to be at the shows that I produce – I’m continually figuring out how to navigate. The natural result is that I’ve had to not hold on so tightly to the idea that I need to do it all myself at Art House. And it’s been great. There’s a beautiful leadership team here that’s really wonderful and rocking it out. It takes a village on both ends.
JCF: What was it like going from one to two babies?
CG: Having my first child and the incorporation of motherhood into business ownership was overwhelming at first, and then manageable. We found our rhythm and knew that it wouldn’t last forever, but it was working.
But when the second baby came along, the juggling wasn’t going to work. It wasn’t possible. At that point, I needed to make sure that we had a theatre manager and a technical director who could be on site in the evenings and make sure that the shows went smoothly in my absence.
JCF: If you had to do it all again, what would change?
CG: Nothing. Through owning my own business, I was able to bring my kids to work with me for the first 10 months of their lives. I could pursue my love of the arts and keep the business going. It was a wonderful opportunity and for that I am extremely grateful. In an ideal world, I don’t even know how I would change it, because my kids are growing up in the theatre and I think that’s a unique experience for them too.
JCF: What is the best advice that you ever got?
CG: It wasn’t any specific thing. Having the influence of other mothers around me that were making it work, and knowing that it didn’t always have to be perfect, was amazing. Being able to see that we all mess up, and we’re all feeling our way through this – and that it’s possible to raise children who are kind, aware, intelligent human beings while still not always getting it right felt like such a relief. It shifted the focus from being supermom to being a human being and the best mom I could be. That gave me more confidence. It’s nice to know that we all drop the ball, and we all feel like we’re constantly playing catch up, and we forget the diapers, and we try to figure out a last minute dinner, and we forget the paperwork for the school, but at the end of the day, our kids are good people. And that says to me that I’m on the right track.
Mel Kozakiewicz blogs at www.urdoingitright.com.
Michael Billy Jersey City
I met Matthew Argenti and Michael Billy in the afternoon at the fabulous Vogue Coffee Shop in Jersey City, NJ. If you’ve seen Billy’s name in the news recently, it’s because he organized the Rally to Stand with Immigrants and Muslims, as well as the Rally to Stand with Victims of the Orlando Nightclub shooting. He’s an activist and a filmmaker, currently working on a feature about meeting his birth family in Columbia.
Matthew: We met in Teaneck, NJ at an Irish Pub. It was a fraternity thing – I was part of a fraternity – and I was there with friends. This striking gentleman was singing Boyz II Men’s End of the Road (doing karaoke) and the whole bar was singing along. That was my first impression.
Michael: We were different people back then. I’ve been sober from alcohol for 9 years – and we’ve been together 11.
Matthew: – and I work in the liquor industry! But we’re able to communicate –
Michael: – and we’ve changed together.
Matthew: That’s why it works. When people ask us ‘How have you stayed in a relationship for so long?’ I always mention how we grow together. Like when he became sober, I was at a point where I was also ready to stay away from bars, too.
Michael: Our core values have not changed. It’s almost as if we’ve been in relationships with different people –
Matthew: (eyebrows raise)
Michael: No – I mean like, the person you were in college was a different person. I would not date that guy today, who you were in college. That’s what I mean. Our core values were different then. And it was ok then. But now they’ve changed. And we changed together. Right?
Matthew: (nods) We’ve been together for eleven years but married for one. And now we’re ready to have a child.
Michael: Because we have a dog, and that worked out. (laughs) And we’re home a lot… This past year, I found my birth parents [in Colombia]. I found my birth mother and found out my birth father had been murdered by Escobar’s people. It was a huge bomb dropped into my personal life. And then Matt brought up the idea that we should adopt from Colombia.
Matthew: We have family there that we could trust in the process. There are so many kids that need a home. Michael was adopted from Colombia – we would want to do the same for someone else.
JCFamilies: Do you have an idea of what kind of parenting philosophy you would have? Or what would be important to you as parents? Like what did you appreciate about your own childhood that you would want to replicate?
Michael: I really wanna screw this kid up. (laughs)
Matthew: (clears throat) We had different experiences of growing up. My mom owned a travel agency, so I was able to travel a lot. I was able to experience different cultures and adapt. That’s would be very important for me. And maybe a city lifestyle. Jersey City is such a melting pot – it would be a great way to expose our kids to all the things we value.
Michael: In a larger context, I think it’s become very clear that we need to reform education on all levels. I believe being a parent allows us to educate our children on quiet, on stillness…On all things – from gender, to meditation, to different ethnicities. We have an opportunity to correct some of the wrongs that have been taught. Regarding the school situation – who knows? I was partly homeschooled. I know there were benefits, but for me there were also missed opportunities.
Matthew: – and I grew up in a Catholic school. As far as high schools go, my school was actually very accepting and open to different kinds of kids.
Michael: We were Jewish. I went to Catholic school too but at the end of the day, my mom would tell me the “real deal” as she said… We also have to mention humor. And dancing. Those are all so important in raising children. The energy of the house, the energy we give off… It’s not just the things we say. We come from a generation of people who are wildly horrific at communication –
Matthew: I think that’s one of the things I love about our own relationship – the communication. Even when we’re having a bad day, we always make each other laugh. We connect with humor.
Michael: We keep a little journal to surprise each other with.
Matthew: It sounds corny, but think about it. Your husband surprises you with a card or a note or something, you’re not sure how long to keep it, it ends up getting thrown away, then there’s guilt about that – like what’s the expiration date on those cards? But if you had a journal book where you had all these surprise love notes, like when you come home from a bad day to a love note – and then you have this book to keep –
Michael: Take a moment for someone. It’s your fricken husband for godsakes!
Matthew: It’s a “remember when” in a sense.
JCFamilies: Can we talk about raising queer children? What are some of things to keep in mind?
Michael: Start with an understanding that gender expression and fluidity are all about love. It’s not about putting the child in a box or a label. Experimenting and questioning is part of evolving.
Matthew: There’s a part of the world that you can’t provide for your child. But providing love and acceptance in the home will school the child for their whole life. Be open, loving, accepting. It’s stability.
Michael: I’ve been attacked myself, and that one event kicked off my entire life. My parents could not control that. But they did provide me a home.
There’s an assumption that adversity is bad. But the pain that trans and LGBT kids are feeling only makes the community stronger. It helps to create a voice that is undeniable for years to come. Don’t judge adversity as bad. Give up control and prepare your child for the array of things that may happen in their lives.
Matthew: There was a guy I bonded with in high school – he was straight – and he got made fun of for being gay too. So it doesn’t matter. Energetically, we’re all the same.
Michael: We are every one of us.
Matthew: Whether it’s a queer family, or straight family, or whatever – we’re all one and we’re all part of the community. It doesn’t matter what ethnicity we are, we’re all part of this community. And we’re awesome.
Mel Kozakiewicz blogs at www.urdoingitright.com.
Elna Mukaida Hamilton Park Jersey City
I met Elna Mukaida in her building in Hamilton Park on a snowy morning right after the New Year. She brought me a steaming chai tea and we chatted about her involvement in the community, the neighborhood association, and of course, the park.
JCFamilies: How long have you been in Jersey City?
Elna Mukaida: I bought a condo here in 1985. That was in the day when you wouldn’t go out after dark. It’s been amazing. You should see the changes.
JCF: But you don’t feel that way anymore, right?
EM: Oh no. I think it’s important to know your neighbors. If I’m chatting with someone, and someone else walks by, I’ll always try to introduce that person so people start talking to each other. Little by little, this building has become very friendly.
JCF: Have you been involved in the Hamilton Park Neighborhood Association (HPNA) that whole time?
EM: I started going to community meetings in the early 2000s. I think. I’m trying to count the years, but instead I think I have to go by the number of presidents.
JCF: Were you in a leadership role at that time?
EM: Usually when I join a board, I just keep my mouth shut for the first year or two, see what the interactions are.
JCF: But since then you’ve had lots of jobs on the HPNA.
EM: I had been secretary for a couple years. I was also president for 2 ½ years.
JCF: What’s on the radar now?
EM: The HPNA is paying a lot of attention to what the planning board is working on. The current plan is for the Roberto Clemente block. The redevelopment would allow for 20-30 story buildings there. We don’t want that.
JCF: How come?
EM: You lose a lot community when that happens.
JCF: What’s your role now with the HPNA?
EM: I’m assistant manager for the Farmer’s Market. One of the things I really believe in is sharing information. A lot of new people come to our table, with questions about the neighborhood.
JCF: What do people want to know?
EM: We always have the 126 bus schedule at the table, for example. I also tell people the Jersey City Police Department’s phone number. It’s 201-547-5477. And I tell them to put a “1” in front of it so it’s the first thing that comes up if you really need it.
JCF: I love the Farmer’s Market at Hamilton Park.
EM: Thanks. We’re really proud of our Farmer’s Market. Our vendors are really nice. All of them are very social and people in our neighborhood love to chat. People have made it a tradition to have their dinner there. They’ll sit on the steps of the gazebo and have their pizza and just enjoy the park.
JCF: What do you like about the HPNA?
EM: Many things make HPNA special. The neighborhood association sponsors many events – the Hamilton Park Festival is one of my favorites. We have music, we have entertainment. We’ve got flea market type vendors – one comes from as far as Saddle River. It’s a lot of fun.
JCF: I remember what the park used to be like – and what it is now. Did the HPNA make that possible?
EM: The renovation of the park was in 2008. The board put on a survey for 2 or 3 weekends for the public to express what they wanted to see in the park. They had possible landscaping designs – bench styles, lamp fixture styles, and they created a booklet for the city. They had funds from Green Acres (county funding) so the HPNA was tapped to participate in the renovation.
JCF: They did a great job.
EM: It’s really become a very popular place. The day they reopened, there must have been 1000 people there.
JCF: I feel like that’s not an exaggeration. Even now it sometimes feels like there’s a thousand people in the park!
EM: Oh yes. Kids love it, they see their classmates there. We now have about 10 schools in our neighborhood – they and other schools, like schools from Harsimus Cove, come to play in the park.
JCF: And there are family events too that bring in big crowds.
EM: We have the Great Egg Hunt that we do in collaboration with JCFamilies. And we have the Farmer’s Market that starts in May. We have Shakespeare in the Park. That’s in June, July, and August. Maybe 3 or 4 years ago we started Movies in the Park too which has been very popular. And the Halloween Parade! Kids get dressed up and just mob the park. It’s wonderful.
JCF: How’s the gazebo? We heard about the truck that smashed into it.
EM: Oh no. That guy had a breakdown. He’s drove from Maine. He thought the end of the world was coming. He said God made him do it. Apparently he had marital problems. He just decided not to stop.
JCF: Oh gosh. That’s terrible. Was there damage?
EM: Outside looked pretty good, but inside there’s going to have to be some repairs. There’s a big crack – it’s structural. We can still use it, but it will have to be fixed.
JCF: How is the HPNA funded?
EM: Several ways. Partly donations. We charge a nominal $10 for membership per household. When people chip in a little bit, they feel more committed. And our Park Fest used to be a major fundraising effort for us, but the primary source now is our Farmer’s Market.
JCF: What do you love about it?
EM: Getting to meet people in the community. I love sharing information, to help people make use of the services that the city offers. Basic networking. I enjoy it. It’s fun to see the kids come by, and families have a good time.
JCF: Well I can tell you that your guidance has been invaluable to many people – including JCFamilies.
EM: You know, the city has a process to get permits for having events in public places. When Mamta started doing events with JCFamilies, I helped walk her through the processes, and go get the signatures. At that time, there were about 14 signatures you needed, and in sequence. You had to go from Cultural Affairs and then the Health Department and then over to Streets. You had to zig zag all over the city.
JCF: Sounds like a long day.
EM: It’s simpler now. It’s nice because I get to meet a lot of the behind the scenes people. I like that. While I’m getting a permit signed, I start yacking with the people at Animal Control, for example. And they’re all very nice people. I’m sure that people have yelled and screamed at them in the past, but they’re public servants. They’re very important.
Mel Kozakiewicz blogs at www.urdoingitright.com.
Mel Kozakiewicz talks to child and family therapist Divya Dodhia about raising children in an age of racial and ethnic intolerance.
Back in September when bombs exploded in trash cans around New York and New Jersey, I called (who else?) my sister. At the time, her city (Charlotte, NC) was reeling from the death of Keith Scott, a black man fatally shot by the Charlotte Police Department. In both of our cities, racial and ethnic differences and presumptions seemed to be on everyone’s mind.
Like moms across the country, my sister and I contemplated what (if anything) to say to our little ones about race, diversity, and the United States of America. We desperately wanted, like generations of mothers who came before us, to raise children who could be kinder and carry less prejudice than the generation before. But how?
I didn’t want to scare or create anxiety in my children by bringing up issues that they couldn’t possibly understand. But at the same time, I didn’t want them to overhear confusing discussions by perfect strangers on the Light Rail. So maybe I should just answer whatever questions they might bring up instead of saying anything preemptively? Would that work? And then I could try to answer them in a way that makes sense to them. You know, like be honest but not traumatizing.
None of this was in the manual.
So I sat down with child and family therapist, Divya Dodhia for some guidance. Long conversation short, there are no easy answers. (You’re welcome.) Most of her advice was preemptive, but not in an event-specific way. Her advice centers around the ways we talk to our kids in general – how we interact with them. Here’s some of the greatest hits:
- These are the conversations we need to be having. It’s our job to be able to stand up to injustice, in whatever form that takes – whether it’s racism or mental health or whatever the case is.
- Talk at their level. Use examples from their own lives. When a person is discriminated against, that means the person is being left out. They’re so young, they won’t understand racism, or xenophobia. But they do understand feeling left out. Or bullying. Start there.
- Begin with very small with very basic concepts of humanity. Start with simple things such as empathy and making good choices. Get them to think about how the other person feels.
- Use these conversations to encourage and explain empathy. Empathy is so important. Let’s say for example your child hears someone saying this or that about the police. It’s confusing for that child because we’re supposed to trust the police, but you and I know that these situations are complicated. In that case, bring it back to the individuals. Tell them that not everyone will have the same experiences and that a lot of what people say is based on their own personal experiences.
- Talk about feelings and the choices that go with them. What can you do with the experiences that you have? Let them bring up the examples. You might ask, “Can you think of a time when you felt ____? Then what happened?”
- Help your child understand that just because one person thinks one way, not all the people think this same way.
- Teach simple skills such as sharing and using kind words and even using your manners such as hi, hello, and goodbye. It’s a foundation of you being a human being. You can take it to the next level and talk about what it means to be nice.
- Instill that good choices lead to good consequences. Even at a young age, they have a right make your own choices, but they also have to deal with the consequences, and those consequences might impact other people. You can do this outside of these larger conversations, and you should. Use examples like ‘If you don’t wake up and brush your teeth, how do you think the rest of the day is going to go for you?”
- Replace “Don’t do that” or “Don’t say that,” with try “How do you think this person is going to feel if you do that?”
- Remember that behavior is a method of communication. Children have a difficult time articulating feelings, especially when they have negative feelings like guilt, fear, or embarrassment. Learning how to deal with those are the foundations. Anger is normal, but how you display it matters.
- Finally, give them the language. For example, you might say, “People from different parts of the world will have different foods, different cultures, and look different – that’s called diversity.”
Marc Wesson Van Vorst Park Jersey City
I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing Marc Wesson several times over the course of my tenure as a journalist in Jersey City. We met in the Van Vorst Park, of course. That’s where Marc can be found on any given day.
JCFamilies: How’s it goin, Marc?
Marc Wesson: Hi there! Still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. (laughs)
JCF: How many hours do you think you’ve spent working on this park?
MW: About a thousand each year, easy.
JCF: It looks beautiful as always.
MW: Thanks. It’s a lot of work, and there are only two of us doing it.
JCF: It’s a full time job.
MW: I don’t consider it a job. But I do feel obligated to it. Having put so much of myself into it, and being a part of it from the beginning, makes it hard for me to walk away.
JCF: What would happen if you did that?
MW: If I walked away? If Jeff (Note: Jeff is Jeff Schwind. Wesson refers to him as “an integral part of the park’s success” on more than one occasion in the interview.) and I just stopped working in here, it would be a jungle in 3 weeks. It would be full of trash, everything would be over grown – it would be a free-for-all.
JCF: Do you get any time off? Or what month do you start?
MW: It’s constant. At the end of February we’re starting to prune, get everything ready for early spring.
JCF: This summer was hot as anything. Did that hurt the park?
MW: This summer was brutal just trying to keep the side lawns alive. We do have a sprinkler system for the gardens. That helped.
JCF: Was it tough financially? Who pays for this park?
MW: That’s a tough one – it’s tricky. I’ve put a lot of money in here over the years. We’re also a nonprofit, the FVVP. That helps us raise funds. The farmers market generates income; we have neighbors who contribute. The spray-ground was part of a state and county grant.
JCF: Was that a lot of work?
MW: I’d say yes, it took five years of paperwork, and three months to build. I got permission from the city, and then I designed it with help from the city’s architecture dept. The challenge is to let a private citizen do work in a public park. The city had to issue a license agreement, with the approval of the city council, and then I handed it over as a gift to the city when construction was completed. The dog run was another major effort.
JCF: Tell me about that.
MW: Well, after the park was renovated in 1999, dogs off-leash tore the new lawns apart. So the solution was to build a dog run, which I designed, helped raise funds for, and tried to make clear how important it is that dogs stay on leashes. Because once a dog urinates on a lawn, it’s gone for the season.
JCF: You know so much – how did you learn?
MW: Although I’ve had an interest since childhood, I had never done any professional gardening, so I took a master gardeners course just to get some formal training. It took 9 months. It was helpful to make sure we’re doing things right. We have to be careful about liability issues, to make sure it’s all safe. We obviously don’t want to poison a kid or a dog…
JCF: Overall, what’s it been like devoting yourself to this beautiful piece of land?
MW: Incredibly rewarding. People really do care about what we are trying to do in the park. And they surprise me! It’s the little things, like a couple of times, people I didn’t even know anonymously picked up my bill in a restaurant to thank me. It was really nice.
And I love to garden, to create something from something that wasn’t there. I get to see all the kids in here playing. They follow Jeff and I around, they want to help. We have weddings here now, and birthday parties. I’d put this park up against Gramercy Park in the city any day because of the variety of plants we have, and this is a public space.
JCF: Any advice to people around the city who want to create a space like this?
MW: We feel that the only way a park can be successful is if the community is involved in it. If the community is involved, they will help care for it.
Mel Kozakiewicz is a writer, editor, and educator. She has been living in Jersey City since 2003.
Indoor Tennis Classes
- Kids group lessons offered at 2 locations – Grace Church & HOPES
- Hurry! Some classes already SOLD OUT – few spots remain!
- 4:1 child-to-coach ratio – (4) age groups from 3 – 8 years
- All equipment is provided and beginners are welcome
Ask about their waiting list if the class you want is sold-out
Grace Church (JC) Schedule:
(12 sessions, starting Jan 5th)
Wed – Big Aces (7-8yrs), 530-630 PM
Thurs – Mini Aces (3yrs), 330-4 PM
Thurs – Tiny Aces (4yrs), 330-415 PM
Thurs – Tiny Aces (4yrs), 415-5 PM
Thurs – Little Aces (5yrs), 5-6 PM
Register HERE: http://newjersey.superdu
Grace Church Van Vorst
Parish Hall Gymnasium
39 Erie Street (b/w 2nd and 3rd on Erie)
Near the Grove Street PATH in “Downtown Jersey City”
301 Garden Street (b/w 3rd and 4th on Garden)
Near the Hoboken PATH in “Downtown Hoboken”
YOU could win a FREE 3 month KIDS membership at CKO Kickboxing in Jersey City. To enter your child please register for a FREE kids class durning the month of November. CKO Kids classes are held from 4:15 – 5pm every MONDAY and WEDNESDAY. Please come in and mention JC FAMILIES PROMOTION. We will have gloves and you can watch and see how the class goes!
At the end of the month we will draw one winner from this group for a FREE 3 month membership for the months of DECEMBER, NOVEMBER, and JANUARY. http://www.ckojerseycity.com/ OR Call: 201 360 3072
Your child suffering a serious injury is every parent’s worst nightmare. Whether your child is one of those accident-prone kids who are determined to make a trip to the emergency department every few months or a kid who rarely gets so much as a bruise, there are a few essential first aid tips every parent should know.
Take a CPR and First Aid Class
Some parents have jobs that require them to be certified in CPR and first aid, which comes in handy when their child gets injured. But any parent can get trained in CPR and first aid, regardless of job requirements. The American Red Cross holds affordable classes in many locations throughout the year. In serious emergencies, the ability to perform CPR while you wait for medical professionals to arrive is life-saving.
Know How to Determine a Medical Emergency
When your child isn’t feeling well or has suffered an injury, it’s a parent’s first instinct to rush them to the doctor or the nearest emergency room or urgent care center. But not every illness or injury requires professional medical attention. Some injuries and illnesses can be treated at home with love and a few basic supplies.
For instance, many cuts, some types of rashes, coughs, scrapes, and bruises can generally be treated at home, while severe bleeding, head trauma, seizures, breathing difficulties, and other serious conditions require emergency medical care. When in doubt, call your doctor (for non-emergent situations) or head to the nearest urgent care center or emergency department to be safe.
Keep Your Home Safe
They say that prevention is the best medicine. Any parent who has a super-resourceful two-year-old who stacks large toys to fashion a makeshift stepstool to climb onto the kitchen counter (where all kinds of fun things await, such as kitchen knives, cleaning supplies, and more) knows this all too well.
While you don’t want to be an over-the-top parent, you can (and should) take childproofing precautions such as storing cleaning solutions, chemicals (such as pool chemicals), sharp objects, matches and lighters, and any other toxic items well out of reach. Locking these dangerous materials in a cabinet is the safest bet, especially if you have a resourceful, fearless kid.
Teach Your Children How to Call 911
Children as young as five years old (sometimes younger) have been taught to call 911 in an emergency, and stories about young children saving the life of a parent or sibling by calling 911 are abundant. As soon as your child is old enough to grasp the concept of using the phone and understand what constitutes an emergency, teach her how to dial 911. Operators are skilled at engaging with people in all states of mind and asking the right questions to offer instructions to the caller that will help the injured party. That includes keeping young children calm until help arrives.
Build First Aid Kits for Your Home and Car
Most families have a first aid kit that they keep at home, perhaps stored in a bathroom cabinet. But those supplies do you no good when you’re at the ball field and your child falls and gets a nasty scrape or cut. That’s why you should build several kits with essential supplies and keep one in every vehicle as well as in your home.
Your first aid kits should include supplies such as a water bottle to clean wounds, ace bandages, tweezers, bandages and band-aids, hydrocortisone ointment, alcohol wipes, and more. A tourniquet, finger splints, and numbing spray can also be helpful. Of course, you should also pack any supplies unique to your family. If you or your child suffers from severe allergies, for example, an epi-pen is a must.
Kids have a knack for getting themselves into all kinds of potentially dangerous situations. Allowing your children to explore the world and engage in play is critically important to their development. The reality is that you can’t prevent every injury, but being prepared will help you better manage any situation that arises.
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